Friday, August 1, 2014

August Word of the Month: DAILY

DAILY means happening or done every day. Things done every day are called habits. Habits can be bad things like overeating and smoking. They can also be good things like exercising or watching/reading positive things. It takes 28 days or a month of doing something new for it to become a habit. So if you just started smoking, the easiest time to quit is in the first month. Unfortunately, if you just started doing regular exercise, you have month before you will stop getting that feeling of dread before a workout. Also, if you skip a workout you start the month all over. You have to be consistent. I f you have, "just one more" cigarette, you have to quit all over again. You are either walking uphill or sledding down it in the snow. You may have exercised for two weeks but when you miss one session it is easy in your head to justify missing the next one. You have to adopt a, "NO EXCUSES." mentality. Here are some of the worst habits people can develop or decisions not to develop habits that I think are bad: 1. Saying, "I can't." When what they mean is, "I won't." or "I'm too afraid." or "I don't know how to..." 2. Overeating 3. Not exercising at all 4. Drinking sugar filled soda all day 5. Deciding never to read a book again after school 6. Watch TV from the time they get home till bed 7. Always trying to be comfortable Here are some habits and decisions I would suggest people develop/make: 1. Trying something new every time their is an opportunity 2. Keeping their word. Part of this is learning to schedule commitments as soon as you agree to do something. If you say you will have to get together with a friend you have not seen in forever, whip out your calendar and schedule a time to get together. Show that you mean what you say and you are not just blowing them off! 3. Think about the week before it starts and plan meals or when to eat out. Have some go to recipes that are healthy and buy groceries to make those meals. Otherwise you will fix whatever unhealthy thing sounds good at that time. PACK YOUR LUNCH! Don't go out to eat with girl friends or with the guys! Eating out all the time will add weight to you. Of course to do this you need to come up with a food budget and stick to it! 4. Come up with a budget. Don't just buy things on the fly! Your money will disappear and you will wonder where it went so fast. Put $1000 in a savings for an emergency. Believe me, it is life and stuff happens! Pay down any debts you have and watch your stress melt away. People are always so happy that they can get credit. "I got a loan for a house with payment of $700 a month. Many people pay that in rent for apartments. This is so cool." In this economy can you afford to risk losing your job and the house being foreclosed? Oh and guess what?! You had to declare bankruptcy..Now you have NO credit. Besides, when I was growing up, I was taught that it wasn't worth having if you didn't earn it yourself! 5. Exercise consistently. You can decide if it is DAILY or a couple times a week. Just do it consistently! 6. Drink water. Drink unsweet or drastically less sweet tea. Stop drinking all the soda and energy drinks that are loaded with sugar. I personally sell and use XS energy drinks. They have a ton of B-12 and no sugar. They taste awesome! They are like 15 flavors! I am not trying to sell them right now I am just trying to remove your excuses and tell you that you can make a choice to be healthy and still enjoy your drinks. However, if you are interested in them check them out at . 7. Read self help/leadership/people skill/personality growth type books all the time. They will help your friendships and your marriages. They will improve your relationships with co-workers. 8. If all you ever do is work and watch TV then your life will have no meaning. You will start escaping into the TV shows and characters and living through them. You deserve more of a life than pretending to be someone else! 9. Get out of your comfort zone often. That is the only way to grow and change. It is how you find out who you really are on the inside... So remember it is not just about what you do DAILY but about what you chose NOT to do DAILY! Habits define you. They define your character! So I leave you with one last habit I think you should develop..MAKE LIFE FUN DAILY!

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

July Word of the Month: CURIOUS

CURIOUS means eager to learn. It also means extraordinary or unusual. Being eager to learn is a good thing. If you are not learning you are not growing. You should always be growing and changing. Why does everyone try so hard to be normal? What are we afraid of that we feel we have to be like everyone else? It is good not to be normal. What does normal even mean? Normal people are average. Average people are not growing. My awesome pastor, PK Bowman of The Rock of Asheville, says, "God made you because he wanted a you." According to the bible I was designed for a unique purpose that only I can fulfill. Clearly, I was not meant to be normal. I was not meant to be like everyone else. I cannot fulfill my purpose if I do not continue to grow into the person He created me to be. Besides consider where would the world be if everyone tried to be normal. What would have been invented? Would we have gone to the moon? Also, think about the things in this world that we consider to have value. It is the rare and limited quantity things that we consider most precious. Diamonds are a good example. It is because the are scarce, hard to create, and a limited quantity that they are so valuable. If you are different and you get laughed at by others, brush it off. They are only tying to make themselves feel better about letting go of their dreams! You are removing their excuses and they don't like that! So don't pay anyone attention. Go out there and be weird! Be CURIOUS! Study math and science! Pursue whatever you are good at doing! Build to your strengths! Go after things with passion! Be courageous enough to explore all things in life! CURIOSITY and learning will keep you mind and your heart young!

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

June Word of the Month: COURAGE

COURAGE is the quality of mind that enables one to face danger with self-possession, confidence, and resolution. This definition tells us four things. 1. First, courage is not a trait born to us. It is something that we acquire. 2. Courage is not something we have to go through physical struggle to obtain. It is acquired simply by making a decision in your mind. 3. Courage is not a one time event. It requires that you be resolved. Or in other words that you stand firm on that decision on a daily basis. 4. Having the confidence to make and stand by a decision on a daily basis comes from having a certain quality of mind. Quality means an essential, excellent character. Having character means you have a moral and ethical strength. So it would be essential for a quality mind to have an excellent or strong moral and ethical code that it used to make decisions. That code is what gives you the confidence to make a decision and stand by it, even in the face of danger! So let me ask you..Do you have the COURAGE to pursue your dreams? Do you have the character to make the hard decisions when that candy bar says. "Come on you have been good all day. One bite won't hurt." Have you got the confidence to stand by a decision day after day when that alarm goes off at 5 a.m.? Or will you hit the snooze button? Will you shrug off the comments like, "It may be a good business plan but it won't work for you."? Or is your resolve as stiff as tissue paper? COURAGE is knowing that you have already won! COURAGE charges into the lion's den on faith!

Thursday, May 2, 2013

May Word of the Month: CONTROL

Control means to exercise authority or influence over. It's the power to manage, direct, or dominate. The only things you can control are your attitude and actions. You are the only one besides God, who created you, that has authority to direct your life. You can influence your circumstances merely by thinking about them differently. All you have to do is stay positive. However your quality of life will not change just because you dream of a better life or pray for one. God moves through us. Therefore we have to take action. Only then can prayer be answered. However action without prayer in usually dramatically less effective as well. Everyone knows a united team is stronger than any one man. Team up with God. Pray. Take action. Stay positive. Be persistent and keep an ear open. Sometimes God shouts, other times he whispers.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

April Word of the Month: Conquer

CONQUER means to defeat or subdue by or as if by force of arms. The bible says, "...If God be for us, who can be against us?" (Romans 8:31) It also says, "...In all these things we are more than CONQUERORS through him that loved us!" (Romans 8:37) You can overcome circumstances if you know they are temporary. That knowledge gives you confidence in your ability to CONQUER things. Your confidence allows you to be persistent in pursuing your goals. Your persistence allows you to CONQUER obstacles by force. Anyone can side step a problem. When I say CONQUER, I mean moving mountains. The ability to CONQUER comes from a purpose and a need. To move a mountain you have to have a strong purpose for moving it. It can't be a desire or a want. You have to have so strong a purpose that you say, "I'm going to move this mountain or die trying!" People don't realize how important it is to CONQUER their fears. Fear is the only thing that limits your potential. The fear of what others will think and of failing are two of people's most common fears. Fear is lies made up by the devil and whispered in your ear over and over until you assume they are truth. Can I ask you a personal question? What do you want most? I know that right now you want not to be embarrassed. I know that now you want to be comfortable. (Man I HATE that word!) But what do you want most? Would you trade what you want now for what you want most? What price are you willing to pay for your dream? CONQUERING your fears also help you grow as a person. Years ago I was afraid to return an item at the store. I was afraid that the cashier would yell at me or think badly of me. I was afraid they would ask for information I didn't have and I would be embarrassed. Now I am loud, confident, and very social. I changed and grew when I was forced to try new things. The next time you fear something, lie to yourself and others! Boldly proclaim how easy and fun it is and do it! Once you face your fear you may love it. If you fear something it has control over you. You are in control of your life. Live a life of victory! That doesn't mean go succeed. It means live a life knowing that you have already won. God has a plan of abundant life for you! God is for you! All you are doing is walking through the steps to claiming your reward. So enjoy the journey. Take in the view. Make some memories along the way. Find some new friends along the path. Then when you finally reach your destination in heaven you will realize that your life was your reward. Heaven is where you go home and thank God for loving you enough to give you such a precious gift!

Saturday, March 9, 2013

March Word of the Month: CONNECTION

CONNECTION means unity, a link, association, and or relation. This is a powerful tool that everyone needs to learn to leverage. Whenever you start a group ventur you need to act in unity. A focused effort is much more likely to succeed in achieving your goals. Whenever you are trying to achieve a goal, the best way to learn to succeed, is to associate. with others who have achieved that goal. If you want to be a master chef, you don't intern at McDonald's. If you want to be a millionaire, you don't take business advice from broke people. You look for people that have fruit on the tree. People who offer advice may be well intentioned. Not taking it doesn't mean you don't care about or even respect the person. It just means that you are smart enough to get your advice from a source with current creditability. Getting a job these days really is about networking. What does that mean? Have you ever heard the phrase, "It's not what you know but who you know."? You make connections with people. You serve them. You form friendships. They help you out, you help them out. CONNECTION is the key. Have you ever recommended a restaurant or a movie to someone? Businesses count on word of mouth advertising. All of that is based on your CONNECTIONS. How many people you know and the quality of your friendship determines how many people listen to your recommendations. If you were to get into a seriously bad situation who would your call? Do you have other CONNECTIONS? People you know but aren't close friends? Why do you open up more to one person than another. One of my personal philosophies is that I treat everyone the same. My heart is on my sleeve for the world to see. I would drive out to help anyone that has my number. Life is really about CONNECTIONS. When we die that is the only thing that outlives us. Don't just live, live by standards. CONNECT. Live a life that matters.

Saturday, January 19, 2013

January Words of the Month: CAPACITY and POTENTIAL

The word CAPACITY means the ability to receive or hold. It also means the power to learn or retain knowledge. It means the POTENTIAL for growth, development, or accomplishment. Which is why when we talk about CAPACITY we should also talk about POTENTIAL. POTENTIAL means the CAPACITY for growth and development. You have the CAPACITY to grow and learn anything! What gifts you do not already possess your can receive as gifts from God. You can learn the things needed to reach your goals. Or people who have those gifts can be placed in your life. People think when you say, " You can do anything!" Or "Your dreams can come true!" that it means now or never. They think either they are fully capable now to do what they desire or they just don't have the ability. For example, my dream is to teach people to cook. I know nothing about how to start a class. I know none of the laws or regulations involved. I know nothing about how to advertise the class. I don't have the ability to start a cooking class. However, I know someone that is starting a small food related business that has told me about a class on USDA regulations. I can do research online. I know how to call a local college with a culinary program. Once I expressed interest in this goal. People who knew helpful things started to appear in my life. Reaching a goal or dream should take time. Part of what makes it so satisfying is the knowledge of your struggle to victory! Don't let the process intimidate you out of reaching your dreams! Rejoice in your POTENTIAL to develop into the person who does what you dream! Walk tall knowing you have the CAPACITY to achieve greatness!